Caring for a Child with Cancer: Your Questions Answered by a Paediatric Oncologist

When a child faces cancer, their emotional journey is just as important as their physical one. Supporting them effectively requires understanding, empathy, and tailored strategies. In this blog, let me attempt answers to some of the most pressing questions caregivers often ask.

How do children process cancer differently from adults?
Children’s understanding, fears, and coping mechanisms are closely tied to their developmental stage. For example, younger children might not fully comprehend the concept of illness, while older kids and teenagers may have more complex fears, like missing out on school or social activities. Some children express their concerns openly, while others might withdraw or show changes in behaviour. It’s essential to remember there’s no “right” way for a child to respond to cancer—each child’s journey is unique. Observing and responding to their cues with patience and empathy is key.

How do I communicate with my child about their diagnosis?
Honest communication is crucial, but it needs to be age-appropriate and sensitive. Younger children might benefit from simple analogies, such as explaining cancer as "good cells and bad cells fighting." For school-aged children, a bit more detail can help them understand, while teenagers often prefer directness and being included in discussions about their treatment. Regardless of their age, share information gradually to avoid overwhelming them, and always answer their questions truthfully—even if the answer is, “I don’t know.” Creating private, quiet moments for conversations can encourage them to open up when they’re ready.